|
Back in early September I decided to buy tickets for the first two rounds of the NCAA Tournament in Buffalo, NY. I had been there before and loved it, so I knew I had to go back. I bought a pair of tickets for all three sessions and I immediately knew who I wanted to take, my Dad.
My Dad isn't the biggest sports fan, he enjoys watching Penn State football and Steelers football, but other than that he isn't following every single sport like I do. This caused a dilemma. Would he really want to endure six basketball games over a two day span?
He hasn't watched a full NCAA basketball game all year.
I've never once seen him fill out a tournament bracket.
There is no way he would know the seeds of any the team participating, let alone any players.
None of these things mattered though; I still wanted him to come.
All I wanted was for him to attend the event that I care the most about all year. I knew him seeing me so ecstatic would make him happy and that's all that mattered.
So months went by since I ordered the tickets. I finally got them a few weeks ago and presented him the idea of going to the tournament with me. Of course he said yes.
I booked a hotel a week later and the trip was set for me and my father. I was excited. Not only was I attending the tournament, but I thought it would be nice for the two of us just to go on a trip. Usually when we take a trip it's the entire family and most of the time that my Dad and I do something by ourselves, it's usually attending a movie or watching a television show.
This isn't to say we're not close to one another. I think our personalities are very similar, we just have different interests. I like to play video games and watch sports. He likes to read books and watch movies. I think our uniqueness makes our bond even more special; we just see the greatness in one another and we never have to say it.
A week ago all these plans almost changed. My Grandpa had to go into the hospital for a catheterization. Unfortunately they found some major blockage and they would have to proceed with open heart surgery the following week. On top of all that, my Grandpa has been taking care of my Grandma who is battling Alzheimer’s so I knew my Dad and his brothers and sisters would have to go down there to help with the situation.
Anytime people have to deal with situations like this it's extremely tough. When these things happen it feels like you're the only person or family that it happens to, but every family has to deal with different problems at different times. I knew everything would be okay. Of course I was worried about my grandpa, but I knew with my Dad, my aunts, and my uncles around that not only would my Grandpa get the best care, but they would all ensure that my grandma got the best care as well.
Maybe that's just my attitude towards things though; I always look at the positive. I just think that when situations go bad, then the worse has already happened and something better is bound to come out of it. There's no need to dwell on what has happened, but instead you can only look toward what will happen.
At this point my whole outlook on the tournament had changed. I didn't think there was any chance he'd be able to come, but I wanted him to come more than ever. I thought he just needed to get away from situation for a little while and forget about it for a minute or two. My grandpa already finished the surgery, he was doing fine, and other people were there for the time being to help with everything. I knew my Dad's heart would be with my Grandpa and Grandma, but maybe his mind could be elsewhere.
He decided to come.
Friday morning we left to drive up to Buffalo and I tried not to bring it up at all. I'm sure through the past week amongst everyone he heard enough of, "We should do this." or "We should've done that." or "We can't do that." or "We have to do this." Who was I to be telling my Dad what he should be doing with his mom and dad?
We got to the parking lot nice early so we could get a good spot to leave after the game. We had a hotel 4 miles down the road, but my Dad isn't the biggest fan of traffic so we wanted to be able to get out as smoothly as possible. My dad read his book and took a nap; I did crossword puzzles on my phone.
It was about 11:30am when we entered the arena. We sat down in our seats, which were cozy, but uncomfortable. Immediately I thought, "Oh boy, how's he going to like sitting in these tight quarters for almost 12 hours?" He didn't complain.
The first game was Morgan State versus West Virginia. I had to explain to him, which team was which, who De'Sean Butler was, and what seed each team was. Morgan State came roaring out of the gates with a 10-0 lead. The crowd went nuts and you could feel the energy across the arena. This is what the tournament is all about. These are the moments that you remember and love from the weekend. West Virginia went on to blow them out, but it was still a fun game. Clemson versus Missouri was a battle throughout and Gonzaga and Florida State was great as well.
The final game was Syracuse versus Vermont. Syracuse was blowing out Vermont and I could see my Dad was nodding off between timeouts. A timeout occurred almost every five minutes so he definitely got an abundance of naps in. Vermont cut it down to 12 at halftime and I told him I wanted to leave. I actually did want to leave to go watch the other games, but I also knew he was fading out and we'd also beat all the traffic. We got to our hotel in about five minutes and he called it a night, while I finished watching all the games.
On Saturday we didn't have any plans. I wanted to watch the games and that was it. We went to lunch and came back and I watched the games in the hotel room. Later on that night we had a nice dinner at Red Peppers, a Chinese/Vietnamese restaurant. It was there where we finally really got to chat about things and I gave him my words of wisdom.
After discussing everything, I told him basically what I said above. You can't worry about how things got to where they are, but you can understand where things are going to go. There's no reason to keep thinking about the negatives because only positives will come out of this. Just some insight, from a son to a father, to show him things aren't as always bad as they seem.
Saturday commenced and we woke up and went back to the arena early on Sunday. Dad took his nap, I did my crossword. We enjoyed ourselves for two more games and left and came home from a great trip over the weekend.
We both had a great time and my Dad got to experience what I love about college basketball so much. Those amazing moments that you never expected would happen. The trip was kind of like the tournament, just a bunch of great small moments that I never expected.
I know he enjoyed his time and I hope he knows I did it for him. More importantly, I know he did it for me. |